Gap to cross over

Hmm...tonight i would share some topic about communication...
Many of the times we felt that there is a broad gap between us and some people
..it can be the senior adult, parents, siblings, friends n so forth.. The gap which we find it's barely able to conquer and cross over..
Soon we may feel it's not big deal..after all it may be just a piddling matter to care of..what for we do anything to revamp the issue..what i learn from the past...the effect can be devastating and lead to more social problem..which we actually know deep inside our heart...
As for me...i must admit that my friends are closer to me compared with my family..
The only family member whom i will share my big and small is my mother...no need to mention my dad and bros...there is less than hundred sentences we talk in one year... cham ma..hahaha...so i start to think of the situation i may probably encounter in future...no doubt..it would be a sad and lonely scene to picture...TT
Flash back...i remember an famous author(施以诺）mentioned b4 in his book...

(type with chinese words..easier to understand)

沟通，实在是最难修，也最需要修的科目，弄不好很可能会酿成第啼笑皆非的状况或是抱憾众生的误会。
沟通这玩意儿酷似”高尔夫球“或其他球类。
第一，要看清楚竿洞的位置：
不能随挥杆。在我们表达理念时，要抓住重点，真正论点，不要把毫无相关的事凑在一起。

第二，要拿捏适当的力道：
挥杆时有时要轻些，有时要重些， 讲究的是“巧”， 而不是靠蛮力！沟通要拿捏适当的语气，不要一味只想靠fierce, 靠冲，靠气势。。在口上取胜，说话温婉一些，巧妙一些，将使你的社交更无往不利。

第三，要有足够得的耐心：
一场高尔夫球赛下来可能得花上半天的时间在球场上待着，沟通何尝不是如此？ 特别是劝化人，听人心事，开导人时。需要你的耐心！让别人花点时间和空间咀嚼你的话，不要期望他人立刻明白或对你的言语表态，认同。

i think if we acquire these communication skills or attitude... we may discover that after all a step to interact with one person doesn't seem as difficult as it thought...Yet i find out that one more thing we lack of is the courage to make the first move...勇气！！maybe as time passing by, we will realize and learn from experience...or we may feel regret for not fixing this gaps..without knowing what is the consequences..